I was never mod (of a forum) but I can feel the pain there.
This will be a longer reply than you probably expected.
I try to use the moderation tools as little as possible.
Other than spam, I can't recall the last time I banned someone.
I also try to forget quickly and easily. If you make a mistake and I have to step in, I'll have moved on the following day. Unless it's something drastic, I don't hold it against folks in the long term.
Then, I compartmentalize. While I share a lot here, I have my home life and I have my mod life. I'm checking the forum regularly for a set number of hours. (Those may fluctuate a little.) Once I move on for the night, I seldom return until the following day.
I use a light touch approach - but the rules are the rules. You will avoid taboo subjects and you will remain civil.
Other than dealing with spam (which, ideally, you don't ever see), it's mostly just tedious stuff like moving a thread now and then. I sometimes have to remind folks to be civil or warn folks away from taboo subjects.
It's also important that I didn't create the rules. They are not of my creation. I did help make them clear but I did not author them. Though, I'm not sure what I'd change if I was tasked with creating the rules. They seem more or less effective. If one wishes to discuss taboo subjects, there are places to do that.
I also recognize reality.
Religion is off-topic. It is strictly off-topic.
I won't say anything about folks wishing each other a merry Christmas. I will say something when they start discussing the tenets of their beliefs.
So, there's a bit of a ramble...
I didn't immediately accept the position and I accepted the position with some caveats. It's not a task to be taken lightly and the obligations are many. It was during the pandemic, so I had more free time.